Dad Tired

Jerrad Lopes
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Dad Tired

You’re tired. Not just physically; though yeah, that too. You’re tired in your bones. In your soul. Trying to be a steady husband, an intentional dad, a man of God… but deep down, you feel like you’re falling short. Like you’re carrying more than you know how to hold. Dad Tired is a podcast for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing. Not with self-help tips or religious platitudes, but by anchoring their lives in something (and Someone) stronger. Hosted by Jerrad Lopes, a husband, dad of four, and fellow struggler, this show is a weekly invitation to find rest for your soul, clarity for your calling, and the courage to lead your family well. Through honest stories, biblical truth, and deep conversations you’ll be reminded: You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And the man you want to be is only found in Jesus. This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about coming home.

  1. 5D AGO

    Why Being a Good Dad Isn’t Enough | Shane Winnings Ep. 472

    Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zSgexS8GG30 In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man’s desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they’re failing. Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won’t cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from being physically present to emotionally absent, this conversation gets real fast. They also dive into Shane’s bold new campaign Make Dads Great Again, what’s sparking revival in Gen Z men, how fatherhood videos are breaking algorithms and breaking men open, and why the greatest threat to your calling might be your unchecked hustle. What You’ll Learn: Why proximity doesn’t equal presence in your homeHow to stop “tinkering” and start truly engaging your kidsThe real reason father wounds hurt so deeplyHow to love your family in the way they actually receive loveWhy being faithful at home matters more than platform or ministry successHow revival might already be happening—just not the way we expectMentioned in This Episode: Shane’s viral Make Dads Great Again campaignWesley Huff’s surprising influence on Joe RoganWhy Gen Z men are leading the way back to churchThe trap of high-output, low-impact fatherhoodHow to heal the pain that productivity can’t coverBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Today’s Sponsors:DwellBible.com/DadTired

    44 min

  2. JUN 2

    Why Most Men Still Feel Like Boys Inside: Healing Your Childhood Wounds with John Eldredge | 471

    Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VDz2Q6cuwsk Why do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best? In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs. Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again. What You’ll Learn: Why behavior change won’t work without soul healingHow father and mother wounds still shape your adult lifeThe two core needs every boy carries into manhoodWhy adventure and validation matter to your spiritual lifeHow to begin healing old attachments and rewire your storyWhat it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your futureMentioned in the Episode: Wild at Heart and Resilient by John EldredgeExperience Jesus (John’s new book on healing)Why boys need a thousand moments of delight from their dadsHow your unhealed story gets passed to your kidsJerrad’s punching bag story (and why it felt amazing)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors: Tyndale Study Bibles + World Watch News

    48 min

  3. MAY 26

    For The Parts of You That You Hate | 470

    What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal? In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you’ve ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you. Whether you’re a husband, father, or man who’s just tired of pretending, this episode is an invitation to drop the shame and discover the healing God offers to the parts of you that feel unlovable. What You’ll Learn: Why shame makes healing so hard, and what finally breaks its grip.The powerful metaphor that helped Jerrad see himself through God’s eyes.How childhood wounds shape adult sin patterns.What Jesus actually thinks about your sin (hint: it’s not what you assume).The difference between guilt, shame, and compassion.A fresh way to view your struggles, and the small boy inside still seeking safety. Mentioned in the Episode: The Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtired (25% off for listeners).The two-week men's recovery intensive Jerrad attended.A simple but profound healing exercise involving a stuffed monkey.Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

    27 min

  4. MAY 19

    No Secrets, No Shame: Building a Marriage That Heals | Gabe Lyons 469

    Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/WDK9O0VZ7lo What if your marriage wasn’t just surviving—but actually healing you? In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain. They unpack: The power of radical honesty (and why most couples never get there)How to stop nursing wounds in silence and start creating real intimacyWhy “no secrets” might be the most life-changing marriage ruleWhat to do when you feel emotionally disconnectedHow confession and emotional leadership can radically change your marriage and parentingIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage or unsure how to lead your family spiritually—this conversation is for you. 📘 Check out Gabe’s new book: The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides and Build a Marriage That ThrivesInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Today's Sponsor: Classical Conversations Homeschooling

    36 min
  5. Why Men Feel Spiritually Stuck (and How To Break Free) | Kyle Idleman 468

    MAY 12

    Why Men Feel Spiritually Stuck (and How To Break Free) | Kyle Idleman 468

    Why do so many men feel stuck—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—even while doing all the “right” things? In this vulnerable conversation, Kyle Idleman talks about the inner battles men face in silence. He explains why many men hide behind performance and productivity, how healing begins with connection (not accomplishment), and what it really looks like to take every thought captive. Kyle and Jerrad dig into thought patterns that keep men stuck, the mental load of leadership, and why confessing weakness isn’t whining—it’s spiritual obedience. If you’ve ever felt alone, overburdened, or ashamed of not “being further along,” this conversation will help you breathe again. What You’ll Learn: Why men around age 40 often face unexpected internal crisisHow emotional connection—not productivity—defines your healthWhat it looks like to take every thought captive in practical termsThe healing power of confession and friendshipHow to recognize and break negative thought patternsMorning routines, prayer habits, and spoken truth as tools for renewalMentioned in the Episode: Every Thought Captive (Kyle Idleman’s new book)Galatians 6: “Bear one another’s burdens”The power of saying Scripture aloud to renew your mindHealthy male friendships and confession as healing rhythmsThe “+/- 3 of 40” principle: why men change between 37–43Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

    53 min
  6. The Subtle Sins We All Ignore & Building a Life of Integrity| 467

    MAY 5

    The Subtle Sins We All Ignore & Building a Life of Integrity| 467

    What do you do when something isn’t technically sin—but still doesn’t feel right? In this episode, Jerrad shares a vulnerable story from his week that left him convicted, even though no clear line was crossed. He unpacks the concept of “inner, middle, and outer circle behaviors”—a tool from recovery circles—and challenges Christian men to evaluate the subtle patterns that quietly lead to sin, disconnection, or hidden shame. If you’re a husband or father wrestling with old habits, emotional isolation, or unspoken compromise, this episode gives practical language to your inner conflict—and a gospel-centered path toward integrity and healing. What You’ll Learn: How to identify subtle behaviors that lead to sinThe difference between self-care and numbingWhy “middle circle” habits matter for Christian menPractical steps for radical honesty in marriageHow to confess without spiraling into shameWhy healing starts with small, honest steps—not perfectionMentioned in the Episode: The “Inner, Middle, Outer Circle” tool from recovery workDad Tired Retreat (September – signup at dadtired.com)Kids' News Sponsor -World Watch News Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

    39 min
  7. How to Rebuild Your Rocky Marriage and Lead with Love|466

    APR 28

    How to Rebuild Your Rocky Marriage and Lead with Love|466

    What do you do when your marriage feels broken—but you don’t know how to fix it? In this episode, Dave and Ann Wilson share their story of nearly losing their marriage at year 10, and how God brought them through bitterness, performance, and unmet expectations into healing and intimacy. With over four decades of marriage experience and years of leading marriage ministries, they speak candidly about wounds from the past, what happens when a wife feels unseen, and why husbands often withdraw instead of engage. You’ll also hear practical tools for renewing your mind, healing emotional wounds, and building each other up instead of tearing each other down. What You’ll Learn: What to do when one spouse has “lost all feelings”How past trauma affects your marriage todayWhy healing starts with individual repentance and soul workThe power of affirmation and the damage of chronic critiqueHow to speak life to your spouse (instead of yelling)What it means to be an “azer kenegdo” and partner in the spiritual battleWhy most men feel unloved and unliked in their marriage—and how to change that Links and Resources: Vertical Marriage and How to Speak Life to Your Husband by Dave & Ann WilsonBiblical Reference- Romans 12:2 – the daily renewing of your mind.Pre-order link: Amazon – How to Speak Life to Your HusbandInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

    55 min
  8. Why You Keep Falling Into the Same Sin (And How to Break Free) |465

    APR 21

    Why You Keep Falling Into the Same Sin (And How to Break Free) |465

    Why do so many christian men fall into the same sinful patterns over and over? Jerrad reveals how habitual sin is often rooted in emotional escape—in attempts to numb pain, stress, or fear. Drawing from his own experience in intensive counseling and a growing commitment to truth-telling, he helps men understand how to face uncomfortable emotions rather than flee from them. This episode is for every man who feels stuck, ashamed, or exhausted by the cycle of sin and silence. You’ll walk away with practical tools to sit in discomfort, recognize your escape habits, and move toward healing and integrity in Christ.  What You’ll Learn: Why escaping pain fuels habitual sin in Christian menHow to recognize subtle behaviors that lead to deeper compromiseWhat it means to sit in discomfort instead of numbing outThe power of presence, meditation, and prayer for spiritual growthWhy truth-telling must be the foundation of healingHow to identify your personal “escape mechanisms” (like social media, work, food, or fantasy) Resources & Links : Inner / Middle / Outer Circle framework for sin and copingJerrad’s 156-day truth-telling streakScripture Reference: Matthew 6:33 – Seek first the KingdomUpcoming “Garage Groups” and online healing spaces (in development)Dad Tired fundraising needs & support at dadtired.com/donateInvite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

    32 min
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You’re tired. Not just physically; though yeah, that too. You’re tired in your bones. In your soul. Trying to be a steady husband, an intentional dad, a man of God… but deep down, you feel like you’re falling short. Like you’re carrying more than you know how to hold. Dad Tired is a podcast for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing. Not with self-help tips or religious platitudes, but by anchoring their lives in something (and Someone) stronger. Hosted by Jerrad Lopes, a husband, dad of four, and fellow struggler, this show is a weekly invitation to find rest for your soul, clarity for your calling, and the courage to lead your family well. Through honest stories, biblical truth, and deep conversations you’ll be reminded: You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And the man you want to be is only found in Jesus. This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about coming home.

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  • Creator
    Jerrad Lopes
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2025
  • Episodes
    472
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2025 Dad Tired
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