Ah, summer is nearly over, the kids are back in school, and we’re headed for the last quarter of the year. Are you raring to go? Ready to make an end-of-the-year push for wealth and success? Paid off your debts? Making plans for a big surge of happiness and joy during the holidays?
Are you minding your money without losing your mind? Do you do your positive money affirmations every day without fail? Let me remind you that the songs we sing can be emotional jolts of affirmations – or desperations. It’s easy to get dragged off course by political upheaval, terrorist activities, family arguments, technical difficulties and all the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune and then start singing the blues.
This month, I’m sending you a reminder from “The Wealthy Spirit” on how to keep the songs you sing positive. I’ve also got several speaking engagements to tell you about and a link to a terrific podcast conversation I had wit Dr. Wendy O’Connor and Jennifer J.V. Wilson.
Have a wonderful Fall Season!
It’s Just a Co-Dependent Love Song
“One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true or false.”—Robert Collier
Years ago, I heard singer-songwriter named Scott Kalechstein sing a clever, paraphrased version of It’s Just an Old Fashioned Love Song called It’s Just a Co-Dependent Love Song. That made me laugh, but it also made me think. I loved all those old torchy, hurt-so-bad love songs and sang them all the time. Whenever I felt blue, I just put on some records or strummed my guitar and wailed. I sang Crazy, Single Girl, Don’t Think Twice, Too Far Gone, Am I Blue, Mean to Me…get the picture?
It is emotionally satisfying to sing the blues now and again. But every day? It didn’t cross my mind that, if sung too often, these songs could act as negative affirmations. I just wondered why my love life was a mess.…
Think about the songs you’re walking around singing. What’s the message you’re giving yourself? Are they positive affirmations, joyful songs? Or heart-breaking, emotional downers? (Not to mention the violent rapper songs. Better to channel all that anger and rebellion into music than into mayhem in the streets, but I wouldn’t be singing along if I were you.)Songs are speaking your word, and your word is powerful. Now I make sure to counteract the blues by also singing songs like I’m All Right, Happy Talk, I Feel Lucky, It’s My Life and Thank You For Loving Me.
Why not write your own positive song or change the lyrics to a favorite tune? If you change lyrics to a tune, it must be an already upbeat song, or your subconscious memory of the negative words will impede your progress. A friend of mine had rewritten the lyrics to Lemon Tree to be Money Tree, but when I sang it, I always remembered the word “impossible” in the song. I didn’t want the word “impossible” connected with my money, so I had to stop singing that one.
Here’s a song most people know that we can rewrite for our purposes: Change the word “birthday” to “money” in the song Happy Birthday. I think singing “Happy money to me” is a great affirmation! Sing it today!
Today’s Affirmation: “Happy money to me! Happy money to me!”
When you stop to think about it, you can start becoming aware of all the negative things you tell yourself on a regular basis, like singing sad songs. It's fine to roll in the mud sometimes - there is a resonance in shared sorrows that brings people together in compassionate understanding. But too much time there will just make you depressed.
The daily news of health care cost increases, the fear of not saving enough for retirement, anxiety over debt that never seems to get paid off, may make us want to start singing the old Depression-era song "Brother Can You Spare a Dime". And all the Tuna out there are joining in that chorus.
But if you're here reading this, you aren't a Tuna, you're a Dolphin. You don't follow the crowd down the rabbit hole of gloom and doom, but swim through the waves happily and in communication with your fellow Dolphins, finding your fish, and jumping for joy.
Now is the time you can have a positive effect on the people around you and the economy. Sing your happy song for all you're worth. Look at the blessings in your life and celebrate them. Don't focus on your fears of what you don't want, but relish creating what you DO want, for that's what you will manifest in your future.
Sure, you can join the crowd of Tuna, wailing about the paper loss on your balance sheet when the stock market goes down a few points, watch the negative news reports or the arguing politicians, feel the fear of financial insecurity and visualize your future as a bag lady or homeless guy on the street.
Or instead, you can discipline yourself to focus on your goals, visualizing being happy and rich, having plenty of money, overflowing bank accounts, a jam-packed client roster, plenty of time off for family, friends, and vacations. See yourself in fancy dress in rich surroundings, on an emerald-green golf course, on a Mediterranean cruise, strolling the streets of Paris, laughing with loved ones, fine dining at five-star restaurants, building your dream house in the mountains, lying on a sparkling white beach near crystal clear oceans.
To paraphrase the Dylan Thomas poem - minds, hold you poison or grapes?
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Chellie Campbell is the creator of the Financial Stress Reduction® Workshops, and author of The Wealthy Spirit, Zero to Zillionaire, and From Worry to Wealthy. She has been prominently quoted as a financial expert in the Los Angeles Times, Good Housekeeping, Redbook, Family Circle, Woman’s World and more than 50 popular books. She can be reached at Chellie@chellie.com
Podcast With Dr. Wendy O’Connor and Jenni J.V. Wilson “The Relationship Show”
We could have talked for hours! We were so in sync on the need to balance Spiritual riches with Material riches, how retirement isn’t the only financial goal (even if all the financial talking heads are financial planners and stockbrokers), and how to make money, do good and have fun!
Listen on Google Play - http://ow.ly/FddO30exIQN
Listen on iTunes - http://ow.ly/Ou1s30exJvA
Thursday, August 31, 4:00 pm – 6:30 pm I’m speaking in Torrance on “How to Attract Better Clients and Increase Profits” along with Susan Less of World Financial Group and Angela Sayers, CPA, will give you all the ABCs of Business Success. It’s at the Toyota USA Automotive Museum and yes! There will be a tour of the museum starting at the end of program at 6:30 pm. RSVP angela@Angelasayerscpa.com or 310-541-1611 asap!
Wednesday, October 4, 8:30 am – 10:00 am I’m speaking at WAAT (Women’s Association for Addiction Treatment) on “Confidence, Charisma, Clients & Cash” at the Westside Pavilion Mall, Community Room B, Level 3, 10850 W. Pico Blvd. Free if it’s your first meeting, $15 if you have attended before.
Wednesday, November 5, I am the luncheon keynote speaker on “People Love to Give You Money!” for the LavaCon annual conference in Portland, Oregon. For details and registration, go to LavaCon.org.
Friday, November 17 9:00 am – 12:00 pm I’m speaking at the Moms Helping Moms Business Network in San Diego, CA. For details and information, contact Lisa Blalock at Lisa@momshelpingmomsbuild.com.
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