It's important to build strong, caring relationships with the children in our care. But those relationships are professional. That's why we need to model appropriate, professional behavior in our physical contact too.
Lap sitting, excessive hugging, or even stroking someone's hair—these are all ways that abusers can start to groom children for eventual abuse. It's important to create an environment where such behavior doesn't occur. Because if everyone else is following the rules, it's that much easier to spot the one person who is not.
So pay attention to how you and your coworkers and volunteers interact with kids. In general, it's better to lean toward offering praise or encouragement verbally, not physically. However, high-fives, handshakes and side-hugs are all ways you can occasionally and appropriately show your appreciation for the kids in your care, without compromising their safety or blurring lines between a professional relationship or something more personal.
Report any inappropriate touch as soon as you see it, and empower kids to speak up too. Remember, you are not making an allegation of abuse—simply reporting rule breaking so it can be appropriately addressed.
Ask yourself the following questions: