A Husband

“The Christ Quest Institute presented to me a revolutionary transformation of my understanding of God, as well as my relationship to and with Him. It’s also taught me how perpetually present and active my flesh is — but it also gave me specific steps in each instance on how to defeat it. And concerning my wife — that her true design and value in God’s purpose for me is that she is always there for me to draw upon her help. The Christ Quest Institute made it inescapably clear, appealing, and acceptable that the wisest and most beneficially satisfying course of my life is the quest for Christlikeness — it benefits me along with all who are under my care.”

A Husband

“Our marriage had reached the point that my wife insisted that we get outside help. This surprised me in that I didn't know we were having any serious problems. Through a chain of events, the Lord led us to join several other couples in the Christ Quest ministry. I had many fears about the method and emphasis of the ministry but decided to give it a chance. Over the last two years, the Lord has done a remarkable work through my yieldedness, in the life of our entire family. I have learned about myself and my attitudes by listening to my wife share how I could affect her emotionally. This has been very difficult, even more difficult than I had imagined. However, God has given me a dear gift in my family, and He continues to give me encouragement as He brings all of us closer to each other and to himself through the message I am receiving at Christ Quest Institute.”

A wife

“I've learned through my husband attending and applying the message of the Christ Quest Institute in that God cares about my heart's desire to have a spirit-to-spirit relationship with my husband. I used to think it was selfish and ungrateful of me to want my marriage to be godlier; to be happily married. But since he’s a student of the Christ Quest Institute, even my relationship with God is much richer since it’s more personal than it's ever been. Even more than I could have even imagined or expected it to be.”

Here’s our daughter Denise with our son (in-law) Tim Wedel. They are celebrating their 40th anniversary. Their wedding took place the day after Nancy and I were married, but 25 years later (on September 14, 1984).

Of course, you know that Tim co-leads the CQI Zoom classes with me and is the CQI Director.

Interesting sidenote. When Nancy and I were at a restaurant having breakfast, celebrating our anniversary, the waitress was so excited about us celebrating our 65th that she said it out loud. There was a couple sitting next to us and as they were leaving, the husband asked me what he needed to do to also celebrate 65 years? Without a second’s hesitation I answered, “Learn to speak Womanese. He and his wife got a kick out of that.

I’m going to try something new. The goal is to awaken the desire within some for answers to life. I’m going to start introducing some inviting questions and begin posting them on social media. They are questions that need to be answered. Although they already should be common knowledge in the Christian community, they’re not!

They are fully answered however within the 10 books found in Christ Quest Ministries titled: Discovering the Mind of a Woman, Discovering the Mind of a Woman self-study guide, Discovering the Heart of a Man, Discovering the Narrow Gate, and gaining entrance (the book-form of the twelve-hour Discovery Seminar) and then the six-part series of the three-year, graduate-level, Christ Quest Institute presentation Spiritual Seeds that Reap Christ-likeness. As well as Nancy’s book, I’m Finally Free to Be Me …the woman God designed me to be.

Here is an example of one of my INVITING QUESTIONS: You don’t speak Womanese? How sad. How then can you live with your wife in an understanding way?

To Be a Glorious Example:

No matter what your fondest dreams are about your marriage, I can assure you that they’re nothing compared to what God wants for you.

If a Christian man’s marriage is not exemplary — that is, it’s not displaying nor exhibiting the love that a Christ-like husband would naturally generate — then he’s not demonstrating Christ-like leadership. That is, he’s not literally caring for his wife as Jesus’ representative. As such, neither he nor his wife are experiencing the fullness of the blessings that God has for them.

Additionally, that husband is not proving a godly example — a testimony for others to see. God wants Christian husbands to have a testimony that is so attractive that others are able to see a living example which presents the observer with a choice. They can then decide, “Do I want what God’s ways can accomplish for me too? Or will I stay where I am in my ‘below-God’s-ideal’ marriage?”

A Christian marriage is supposed to be a glowing example that demonstrates how to achieve an exemplary, satisfying marriage. If a Christian husband isn’t that kind of example, then shame on that Christian man/husband!

However, if there is evidence that a man has an exemplary Christ-like relationship with his wife, wherein his goal for his marriage is: that every encounter his wife has with him is, to her, as though it were an encounter with Jesus — and it’s being practiced — if then, another married Christian man sees that example and doesn’t ask, “How can I achieve a glorious marriage like that too?” Then, shame on the other Christian man/husband!