What if you think your child is lying.... often, not always, children lie not because they are trying to get away with something. They lie because they're trying to protect themselves.
Protect themselves from disappointing you, from seeing your face change, from feeling they let you down.
We are all wired for connection. When the truth feels like it could cost approval, calm or closeness the nervous system chooses self-protection.
These phrases can help open conversation up to get to the truth. There may well be consequences/ punishment involved from their behavior, AND children learn your LOVE is not going away in the midst of the conversation, and or the ripple effects of the child's behavior.
Something feels a little off. You're not in trouble, I just want to understand.
You dont have to protect me or yourself right now. I can handle the truth
Take your time, I'm here to listen, not react or punish.